If any phrase captures our culture today it’s, “Fight to the Death!“. Or better yet, “No Holds Barred”. But the fact remains, honey catches more flies than vinegar. How do I know? Because the Bible tells me so (see above).
There is more at stake than just winning an argument. And by the way, if you manage to win the argument, that’s all you get. You most likely have not and will not change anyone’s mind or heart about the issue. And when it comes to spiritual matters, it is always an issue of the heart. The truth is, only God can change a heart or mind. And we can either be a hindrance or a help in that process.
The reality is that those who don’t know Christ have been trapped by the enemy, “who has taken them captive to do his will”. Do you despise those who stand in direct opposition to your most deeply held biblical convictions? We must keep in mind that they are only pawns in the enemy’s hand to further his ultimate goal of killing, stealing, and destroying all that is near and dear to the heart of God.
With regard to food sacrificed to idols, we know that “we all have knowledge.” Knowledge puffs up, but love builds up. If someone thinks he knows something, he does not yet know to the degree that he needs to know.1 Corinthians 8:1-2 NET
We may not be concerned today with food sacrificed to idols, but this principle should apply across the board in our daily interaction with others. In truth, quarreling accomplishes only division. But we are called to be kind to everyone, not resentful, and able to gently instruct; in the hope that God may grant them repentance.
So, the next time we are tempted to quarrel, we should ask ourselves: Do I really want to help this person understand the truth, or is this about me being right?
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